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The following collection of sex guides, how-to books, and sexy sex ed videos will help you and your partner become better lovers by discovering what makes you tick and how you can tickle it.

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Big Big Love, Revised: A Sex and Relationships Guide for People of Size (and Those Who Love Them) by Hanne Blank
Celestial Arts; Revised edition, september 2011; ISBN-10: 158761085X

Review by Kitty Stryker:  Many sex guides expect the reader and their lover/s to have a slender, athletic body, and their tips are offered accordingly. But what if you have a soft belly, rounded thighs or a plump behind? These guides can often offer frustration in place of titilation if you're built for comfort. Thankfully, there is a new, revised edition of Hanne Blank's book "Big Big Love: A Sex and Relationships Guide for People of Size (and Those Who Love Them)" to give everyone else sex advice they can really use.

On top of the excellent advice and information ranging from health to navigating the dating world, this edition has a bunch of fresh new interviews from body-acceptance activists to fatshionistas, along with some brilliant new illustrations and hundreds of new quotes from fat folks and those who care about them. Ranging from practical advice (sex positions and toy usage) to emotional support (building confidence and myth-busting), it's a full-figured resource. This is not just a book for plus-sized people, however, and there's a great, thoughtful section just for fat admirers on how to be a supportive lover and ally. The revised "Big Big Love" proves itself to be just as indispensable as it was when it first came out.
Available at:  Amazon | Amazon UK

The Ultimate Guide to Orgasm for Women by Mikaya Heart
Cleis Press, August 2011; ISBN-10: 1573447110

Owning our desires should be neither embarrassing nor uncomfortable. Nor should they be subject to anyone else's moral judgment of what is right or wrong, good or bad, normal or abnormal. Combining communication and information is the key. By shrugging off the taboos against talking about our preferences and experiences when we're being sexual, we will take the first and most important steps toward ensuring our own fulfillment.

The Ultimate Guide to Orgasm for Women is an unflinchingly honest, responsible, and thoroughly comprehensive exploration of female sexuality. Topics include: The physical types of orgasm, such as electrical, flying, pounding, deep, waves, and blips; orgasm as an emotional release; the "elusive orgasm" and why some women have difficulty having one; how often we fake them and why; masturbation; multiple orgasms; the male-female dichotomy; penetration and the G-spot; defining the erotic; and the joy of sex toys.
Available at:  Amazon | Amazon UK

The Ultimate Guide to Cunnilingus by Violet Blue
Cleis Press; Second Edition, November 2010; ISBN-10: 1573443875

Truly the bible of oral sex for today, The Ultimate Guide to Cunnilingus gives excellent advice, encouragement, and helpful instruction for those who want to expand their expertise or are simply curious about the finer points of cunnilingus. Award-winning author and sex educator Viloet Blue did extensive research and scoured the science and literature of female pleasure to provide step-by-step instructions for going down on a woman. She presents accurate and up-to-date information on female anatomy and sexual response. Featuring erotica by Alison Tyler and helpful illustrations, this is the essential, in-depth guide to giving and receiving oral pleasure.

Violet Blue is like the trusted best friend you can ask anything - but with the expertise of a sex educator who has advised hundreds of thousands of people.
Available at: Amazon | Amazon UK

How Sex Works: Why We Look, Smell, Taste, Feel, and Act the Way We Do by Dr. Sharon Moalem
Harper, April 2009; ISBN-10: 0061479659

Why are women biologically driven to find Mr. Tall, Dark, and Handsome? Can more sex help ensure a safe pregnancy? What effect does pornography have on a man's fertility?

In this compelling follow-up to the New York Times bestseller Survival of the Sickest, Dr. Sharon Moalem takes us on a trip from prehistory to the forefront of cutting-edge medical research, and through a bedroom or two, to tell the story of how human sexuality has developed over time. How Sex Works challenges common perceptions about our bodies and provides astonishing discoveries from the frontiers of science as it traces the transformation of sex across species and through time to its current role in human societies.

Find out the answers to such provocative questions as:

• Can the birth control pill influence the type of men women are attracted to?
• What do men and honeybees have in common when it comes to sex?
• Why do hourglass-shaped women tend to be especially fertile?
• When are women most likely to cheat?
• Can twins have different fathers?

From the composition and function of human sex organs to the fascinating biochemistry behind sexual attraction, How Sex Works presents captivating new ideas and surprising answers to questions about contraception, fertility, circumcision, menopause, STDs, homosexuality, orgasms, and more. This is an entertaining, comprehensive exploration of culture, biology, and history that takes us far beyond our common understanding of sex.
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The Guide to Getting It On, 6th Edition by Psy.D. Paul Joannides
Goofy Foot Press; 6 edition (January 20, 2009): ISBN-10: 1885535333

Explicit, encyclopedic, and totally accessible, Guide to Getting It On! is regarded as one of the best how-to books on sex ever written ­ and certainly the most fun to read. This new commemorative edition doesn't disappoint. Along with the tips, techniques, positions, inhibitions, photographs, and slang terms from earlier editions, it includes over 100 new pages on a wide array of topics.

With 15 new illustrations, five new chapters, 48 additional pages and 2,753 updates, this fully revised and expanded 6th edition of the Guide To Getting It On is the best ever. You will be hard-pressed to find a single page of this down-to-earth sex book that doesn't bring a smile, a blush of crimson, or a moment of awe. Few books on sex are as satisfying. No topic is too verboten, no question too stupid, no hang-up too weird ­ it's all here, presented with a joy and acceptance of all aspects of human sexuality that puts readers at ease and ready to get it on.
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The Anal Sex Position Guide: The Best Positions for Easy, Exciting, Mind-Blowing Pleasure by Tristan Taormino
Quiver (May 1, 2009); ISBN-10: 1592333567

Often considered the most intimate of sexual activities, anal sex is gaining mainstream acceptance as the ultimate in alternative intercourse. This guide takes the intimidation factor out of anal sex and shows heterosexual couples the best positions for pain-free pleasure.

Introductory material discusses how to experience anal sex safely and pleasurably, hygiene and safety, bringing up the topic with a partner, and the use of sex toys and accessories. Subsequent chapters are position-specific: positions for first-timers; positions to spice up your repertoire; and advanced positions. A perfect companion to Tristan's Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women, this guide focuses on a diverse group of positions, their pros and cons, and how to get the most out of them, including an entire chapter on strap-on positions for fans of pegging!

All the tips and techniques are illustrated with gorgeous full color erotic photography, created originally for this book. It's the ultimate anal sex coffee table book!
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Tickle His Pickle: Your Hands-On Guide to Penis Pleasing by Sadie Allison
Tickle Kitty Press (July 2004); ISBN-10: 0970661126

Here's the penis instruction manual that should come with every guyall the highly orgasmic touches and techniques that'll rev up your passion, rekindle his intimacy, and spark the reddest hottest lustiest sex ever. Sexy and inspiring...honest and provocative...candid and exciting, Tickle His Pickle informs, entertains and reveals the penis secrets women long to know.

Want to reveal YOUR inner penis genius? Then come discover...

• Over 50 sizzling techniques to master oral lovemaking
• Dozens of ways to turn your hands into living sex toys
• How to fulfill his biggest erotic fantasies (so he'll beg for more)
• Arousing sex toy tricks that'll supercharge his orgasms
• More than 100 fun, tasteful, titillating illustrations to guide your learning process
• Secret touching tips for the "Male G-Spot" & other pleasure zones
• Plus many more turn-onsfor both of you!
  Available at: Amazon

Better Than I Ever Expected: Straight Talk about Sex after Sixty by Joan Price
Seal Press (January 9, 2006); ISBN 1580051529

Better Than I Ever Expected is a warm, witty, and honest book that contends with the challenges and celebrates the delights of older-life sexuality. It asserts that women over sixty are at the top of their game when it comes to enjoying sex.

Joan Price's woman-to-woman straight talk transcends the self-help style of other books in this field. Yes, there are challenges to sex after menopause and beyond, says Price, but there are also creative solutions. She is on a mission to let women her age and older know that they can, in fact, have the best sex of their lives. Price gets personal and stays positive, combining her own story with candid comments, tips, and sassy tales from sexually seasoned women. She acknowledges the gritty issues that older women confront in their sexual lives, noting that it's not easy, but it certainly isn't over.

At age 61, Price is newly engaged to the man she's been looking for her whole life. Her discovery of how great "well-seasoned" sex can be was the inspiration for this book. Sidebars present candid and friendly sex tips; fitness, exercise, and lifestyle information; and women's erotic vignettes-both real-life experiences and fantasies.
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The Ultimate Guide to Fellatio by Violet Blue
Paperback; Publisher Cleis Pr; ISBN 1573441511; (October 2002)

With wit, expertise, and an enthusiastic approach, the author of The Ultimate Guide to Cunnilingus dispels myths and delivers concise information on going down on a man. Featuring a complete resource guide to books, videos, illustrations, and websites depicting fellatio, every tip, trick, and technique for giving skilled and unforgettable fellatio is provided. From talking to your partner about fellatio to male pleasure spots and sexual response, Violet Blue covers rimming, shaving, positions, oral sex games for couples, flavored lubricants, sex toys, and a plethora of oral techniques. Original, unpublished erotic vignettes by Alison Tyler are sure to get readers in the mood for trying out these tips.
Available at: Amazon

A Different Loving by Gloria G. Brame and William D. Brame
Paperback (January 1996) Villard Books; ISBN: 0679769560

A Different Loving challenges our preconceived notions of sexual normalcy. It is welcomed by the practitioners of dominance and submission and is an indispensable book for all people who are interested in sexual and sociological mores, values, and trends. Until now, there has been a dearth of candid discussion on alternative sexual lifestyles, "A Different Loving" fills that gap in a deeply considered, comprehensive and insightful way. It is an iconoclastic, literate and informative work destined to be widely read and endlessly debated...."
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Screw the Roses, Send Me the Thorns: 
The Romance and Sexual Sorcery of Sadomasochism by Philip Miller, Molly Devon
(July 1995) Mystic Rose Books; ISBN: 0964596008

The authors cleary explain not only the how, but also the why, of sadomasochism and do it in an honest, sexy, and fun way.While being chatty and certainly insight, Screw The Roses enthusiastically covers all aspects of S/M. There's explanations and detailed tutorials for "safe, sane, and consensual", solid advice, safety measures, steamy suggestions, plenty of black-and-white photographs, useful and humorous drawings, an extensive glossary, and over 900 entries of S/M clothing and equipment vendors, publications, computer bulletin boards, and organizations worldwide. For those interested in S/M, this is a highly recommended book.
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