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Is Nudity Your Thing?

Setting aside all snide remarks about body shape and condition and being afraid that others would run screaming from the scene (and other self-deprecating remarks), I wonder how many people are comfortable being nude in public, or quasi-public, areas, and mostly private areas. Quasi-public would include something such as a naturist retreat, or even a private party where all or almost all the people in the crowd are known to you and something such as a mass skinny-dip occurred or was suggested, and private would be right within your own homes. So, any thoughts on nudity?

"I think on-stage nudity is disgusting, shameful and damaging to all things American. But if I were 22 with a great body, it would be artistic, tasteful, patriotic and a progressive religious experience."  —Shelley Winters

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From Pamela
Because it is unacceptable to run around with no clothes on, I have found the next best solution. I always wear thin, loose fitting dresses with nothing beneath them. Although not naked, the breeze blowing around my body feels almost as nice. As I never wear a bra or panties it is fairly easy for people to notice this due to the thinness of my dresses. Over time, I have heard a few comments, mainly from women, although no one has ever approached me directly.

On one notable occasion while carrying two bags, a sudden gust of wind blew my dress right up above my waist, showing everything(By the way, I am clean shaven below). I was totally unable to pull it down, and just had to wait until it fell back into place. This didn't bother me at all, in fact I found it quite a turn on!

From Doug
I'm writing this based on the situation that "From Wishing I could be safely nude" pointed out. [see Wishing... entry below] I've given that some thought.  I'm sitting here at a nudist club and haven't put on a stitch of clothing in several weeks except to go food shopping in town.  I've been skinny-dipping since my teenage years and never had any problem with inadvertent erections.  It is certainly a common fear of many men.  A couple of days ago a first timer was walking in from the parking lot with his wife.  He had an erection and his wife had remained dressed at this point and was very nervous.  It was a weekday and there was nobody about, just me. I greeted him and didn't say a word completely ignoring his erection in every way.  I'm sure it was bothering both of them much more than it bothered me which was not at all.  I think it would have been just plain rude to notice it or say anything and would only increase his discomfort and possibly his problem.  He wasn't "strutting his stuff" or trying to be obvious in any way unlike some of the guys I have seen at nude beaches trying to draw attention to their erections. After they had showered and settled in around the pool I cautioned them about the high altitude sun and the very real danger of burning.  He no longer had the erection and everything was fine.

It's all a matter of one's mind and attention.  As long as he was focused on his penis it stayed pumped.  As soon as he started to deal with practical matters down it went.  If his problem had continued I might have invited him to join in digging a drainage ditch I was working on, good distraction.  "Wishing" needs to decondition himself that nudity means sex.  Don't keep reinforcing the sex connection when nude. Go for a hike.  Dig a ditch.  Read a non-sexy novel.  Read about vitamins or anything but sex.  Bring tennis rackets and play tennis.  Play bocci.  Cook a meal.  Do anything and everything non sexy.  I fell asleep once around the pool.  I woke up with an erection.  Not a single person had paid it any attention at all, if anybody had even noticed, and it went right back down.

I can look at beautiful sexy women and not think a single sex oriented thought.  I can have a long warm friendly nude hug from a woman and not have a single sexual thought.  That took a little practice.  I teach tantra.  It is all about controlling what I think.  I can get erect as fast as the next guy if I start thinking about sex so I control what I think.  I very much enjoy running around nude. I've never had your situation so I can't speak from personal experience along those lines.  However I have had to regain control after a slow dance with a nice young lady.  I've helped distract other guys having things come up.  So distraction and learning to associate things other than sex with nudity looks like about all I can offer as suggestions.  When you do get nude, don't masturbate and reinforce that.  Instead find out what will distract you.  Sit around and play cards for money might distract you.

From Wishing I could be safely nude
Well, here is an input from a convicted exposer. I love nudity, but unfortunately, my mind and body equate nudity with sexual arousal. Several of the people were correct in commenting that nudity has to be in context. A nude sunbather is socially acceptable in most cases, a man masturbating or erect in public is unacceptable. 

I really wish I could hike or swim nude without a raging erection, but it is not possible. I have chosen isolated places and hiked nude, with my clothes handy. Every time, I end up aroused, even with no one around, and I masturbate 1 or 2 times before I have to get clothed again. 

I have learned in therapy that masturbating in this way while engaging in nudity is reinforcing the sexual connection. Does anyone have any knowledge on being nude without being aroused? I would like to practice the techniques you would provide. 

From Paul R
Well I Finally did it, I went to the nude beach at Sandy Hook N.J. the weather was not all that favorable it was cloudy and quite cool only about 70 degrees. But I did get naked and spend about three hours on the beach despite the weather. I had someone take some photos of me so I can look back and remember my very first experience at a nude beach.

I can't wait to do it again. I plan on visiting a nude resort in Virginia within the next couple of weeks, I hope the weather is more cooperative, as the cool weather causes a shrinkage problem.

From Doug
I'm getting into the mid 60s period of life.  We belong to a nudist club and my girlfriend and I intend to spend about 10 weeks there this summer. We are both self employed and need only a computer and internet connection to work. I have been a skinny dipper since my teens.  The club is a family AANR club with people of all ages from children through people that make me look young. If people have sex it is privately in their cabin or RV or tent. No guys are ever walking around with erections or always looking for a place they can masturbate. While there are jerks everywhere I haven't run into many at nudist clubs.  The sexual pressures are much less than at a clothed resort.

I find the temperatures much more comfortable without clothing.  The wind moving on my skin is a delight.  People adorn themselves for parties, many of which are theme or even costume parties. I like the qualitative aspects of social nudity.  People are more open, more willing to just be themselves.  There isn't that whole sub-current about bodies that is so apparent in textile society.  My body is acceptable there while that hasn't usually been the case in clothed society at pools or in locker rooms.  People lack the hypocrisy about bodies such as exhibited by people who say "... too fat or ugly or old or whatever to be nude ...". 

The people there reflect American society, too many too fat for good health, too many smoke, too much alcohol is a common failing. For all that everybody is there with a live and let live attitude and are generally polite and considerate.  It isn't the calisthenics at dawn and health-food of the mythology of former generations. It also isn't a place of wild sex unlike many fantasies.

From Robert
I have always liked being naked. I started sleeping naked when I was a teenager. There was something right about being without clothes. When I married, I convinced my wife, who is somewhat more conservative than I, to also sleep naked, and she enjoys that. Together we discovered nude ocean beaches, where we enjoyed the openness of feeling the warm sun and breeze on our naked bodies with the optional anonymity among others on the beach.

During warm weather months whenever we could, we would spend time on our favorite nude beach, which had many hundreds present on a summer day. We made acquaintances on the beach, but my wife never cared to pursue those relationships off the beach. We did agree that being naked on a public beach was one of the most pleasurable experiences we had on a regular basis.

My experiences have taught me that there is not only nothing wrong in being naked, there is subtle pleasure in living your life without clothing. I rarely wear clothes when I am home, and seek opportunities to live naked. There is great variety in tastes and opinions, and I believe that I should not force my views on anyone not open to accepting them. But I still look for like souls to share with.

From Anonymous
I'm in my 50s and a nudist at heart. I wouldn't think of forcing my nudity upon others, but thoroughly enjoy this secret side of myself. I travel extensively and frequently get to my hotel, take a shower and don't bother to put anything on until morning. If no one is at home, I may not get dressed for hours. Not too risqué by most standards, but I've always wanted to go to a nude beach or some other venue where everyone felt comfortable without clothes.

That's part of the beauty of it, just feeling comfortable with yourself. All of us grew up with pinup posters, but must admit there is nothing so erotic as a woman that can disrobe her mind and soul as well as her body even if she's older, sagging and wrinkled. What I see is the soul of the free spirit and consider myself very lucky for the glimpses that I've had along the way.

From Anonymous
I think the social perception of nudity (skinny dipping; sleeping in the nude; sun baking nude and walking around the house in the nude) is pretty bad! We were born naked! Sleeping in the nude; exercising in the nude and looking at your own body in the front of the mirror and finding out what body parts to improve on; swimming in the nude and sitting in the steam room-sauna in the nude is one of the spiritually free experiences to encounter. You feel spiritually free!

If I see a woman naked, it is not a big deal. A woman's and man's body has to be admired for the amount of work they put in if they exercise regularly and how God gave them their body shape etc. You can see but u cannot touch without mutual consent remember.

Sleeping in the nude is a pleasurable experience. U have a chance to get acquainted with your body and feel your skin. Walking around in the nude at home is also a spiritually free experience. U are free from the conceptions of society because u have a chance to express yourself without being judged.

Swimming and sun baking in the nude (provided u have a fit- athletic body) allows u to be free and work on your sun tan without getting any tan lines. Exercising in the nude (at home or in your own home gym) allows you to watch your body at work. It allows you to see your muscles work and allow you to appreciate your body.

Sitting in the sauna-steam room naked is the ultimate experience! Your skin feels totally exfoliated and if u are on your own, u can masturbate yourself. If u are with your partner, u can cuddle up and rub body scrub onto each other's bodies and allow each other to learn more about each other.

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