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I am no historian and I have no way of knowing if what I suspect is true, and it is this: That the true psychosexual nature of the male has not changed much since there was no such thing as a moral code, there was a time when a man's physical strength decided if a woman was going to be taken and impregnated, thus ensuring the continuity of the strongest male's genes. We are all perched on the thinnest membrane of civilization, an artificial social structure of our own device. Surely rape would have been the norm, not so very long ago. Do not kid yourselves that the male sexual psyche has really changed since those earlier times.
We all know deep down what state would prevail if civilized society were to break down! We can only guess what we would be capable of without fear of punishment, in a world devoid of moral and judicial rules. Is it any wonder then, that when some of our deepest biological imperatives are outlawed by society, that our repressed nature seeks to resolve the dichotomy, and to seek release through fantasies of men forcing and of women being forced to adjust, acquiesce and even enjoy?
From San Francisco Femme
Being restrained or blindfolded, so that my lover can take sweet time bringing me to orgasm, that's titillating. Very athletic, full-on take each other sex, absolutely. But rape fantasies, no way, I was raped in real life by a stranger at age 13 (my first sexual experience so when everyone's sharing their 'first time' it's easiest for me to leave the room). I was later raped by an ex-boyfriend after I broke up with him. Rape is hell so after those experiences it took me until my mid-30s to develop a healthy image of myself sexually, and I won't give that up now for anything, so any kind of demeaning sexual activity just isn't my thing. Don't spit, piss or shit on me. Don't force me to do anything. Don't put me in the position of playing your rapist and forcing you. No thanks.
I feel strongly that fantasy is just that - a fantasy, and that women have been wrongly forced into being embarrassed and guilty about their fantasies - as if they can't tell the difference between real-life situations and a fantasy. I find it upsetting to realize that there are still women who are ready and willing to judge other women's fantasies as right or wrong. It makes my blood boil to realize that there are men who think that because a woman writes a non-consensual fantasy it means that she wants to be raped.
I've talked to a LOT of women who have 'ravishment' fantasies and none who had 'rape' fantasies (or at least admitted to them) the distinction seems to be that the woman 'would' have consented to sex if asked. the main idea seems to be that of overwhelming desirability. the man in question is someone the woman lusts after and that man gets so overpowered by the woman's attractiveness that he loses control. I don't think fantasies like that are 'rape' fantasies at all, they are 'desirability' fantasies.
This might comes as a surprise to some people, but many mainstream romance novels are full of rape/ ravishment/ forced submission plotlines. Does this mean that every women who reads such things has a secret desire to be raped? Really now.
The idea that as a woman my fantasies (and even my reality) are subject to someone's notion of "political correctness", is troublesome at best.
(BTW, the entire notion of political correctness initially had nothing to do with forcing people into some kind of brainwashed mindset. Political correctness was from the outset, a means whereby volatile issues, such as race, gender and sexuality could be discussed openly and in an adult manner. What it's turned into, however, is so far from what it was designed, and now marginalizes the groups it was supposed to give voice to.)
One fantasy I have that has served me well, though I wish I knew why, was that I am in charge of administering a punishment to two bullies after they've been tugged for tormenting some of the other students. Sometimes, in my fantasy, I'm a headmistress, other times, it's vague. Perhaps I'm in the constabulary or some other government service where there is a strict hierarchy.
Regardless, the punishment is to be off the books and is invariably a bare-arsed thrashing.
It involves two young men, to keep it clear I'll call them A and B. I'm going to thrash A but tell his conspirator, B, that he can make it easy on A. B kneels and the sooner he can bring off A with his mouth, the shorter the whipping will be.
Sometimes the idea is that we stop to tickle their balls in case the hard-ons get lost or I show them my breasts.
Eventually, A is forced to come in his friend's mouth while he gets walloped. Sometimes I'm administering the punishment 'in my head' and other times I'm a third-party observer. Sometimes I'm in the heads of the boys being punished. What ever, it makes me wet my pants.
When it's B's turn to get his licking, I reverse the order and have him bum A. Reluctantly, he spears his friend and the punishment begins. Not so hard in either case that the erections are lost. We taunt A and ask him to flex his rectum to help bring off B.
From Emma T
My own particular take involves Viagra rape. In my fantasies, an unsuspecting victim is given that drug and cannot stop his erections.
Delicious variations include the faithful married man tied down so that I or my fantasy substitute can have my/her fun with the victim, or a straight male forced into penetrating other men because the drug keeps him hard irrespective of his actual hetero preferences.
That last one is really hot.
I am not one who has a fantasy about being raped. I do think being TAKEN would be exciting. To be persuaded by someone you want very badly but feel you should resist is very different from rape. To finally give in and let go of your objections is sexy indeed. I could get into that kind of fantasy. But I think the fear involved in rape is altogether different.
I like rape fantasies. I don't mean force fantasies, or 'being taken' fantasies (although I like those too.) I mean rape fantasies. 'Guy breaks into my house, beats me, puts a gun to my head and forces me to have sex with him' kind of fantasies. Of course, everyone wants to know why. That's the $64,000 question, isn't it? Or is it?
Jean and others have given us very eloquent lessons about the way things are, the way things used to be, the way things have changed (or have not.) Much of it doesn't apply to me. My rape fantasies don't come from societal guilt trips. They come from the fact that violence has an erotic appeal all its own. It always has, to some people more strongly than to others, but violence itself is erotic. Thoughts of violence are sexy because they are.
Rape is in no way a fantasy for me, but being taken fast and somewhat forcefully is. What makes it a fantasy for me is the thought that I can be lazy. I don't have to do a thing but allow myself to be fucked. The thought that someone would want me so bad that they would take me hard is what turns me on.
My thoughts exactly! To have a man do things you absolutely cannot say no to. To have your clothes all but ripped off, or to have him want you so much he can't wait for all the clothes to come off. To try and hold your thighs together and then finally want it so much yourself you can't hold back either!
Rape fantasies and even 'playing' some rough games with a partner says something about our behavior as humans. Some of us are risk takers - adrenaline junkies. Some readers and writers are strictly lace, wine and candlelight. Others are lace, leather and whips. Some of us like to sample a little of this and a little of that from the available smorgasbord.
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