Big Dicks vs Competent Foreplay

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From Sarah
Wow ... what a topic. Years ago I would have strickly went with foreplay. Now, thanks to my current long term boyfriend I realize size is fun. He's large, and I enjoy measuring him form time to time. Hard he's almost 9", and he's thick as well.

From JungleGump
As some other people have pointed out before, I'm amazed at the high numbers of people who claim to have or have enjoyed 10", 12" and 14" long dicks with 6"-7" girth. I'm also surprised by the high rate of women who say that they prefer big cocks because sex therapists, doctors, specialists and surveys keep saying that the key factors are girth and the owner's ability/love/care.

So we have women claiming that they can fit 12" long 7" girth dicks in their vaginas and/or anuses without being torn apart? Without getting their cervixes seriously bruised or hurt? We have stories of women rejecting potential lovers because they were under 8" long. I can only guess these claims and stories are just that, stories and tales of people who are not very good at measuring things just with their bare eyes. I don't discard my hypothesis of the confusion between imperial and metrical units.

Vaginas are very elastic and they vary in lenght and diameter, that's for sure and I don't doubt some women enjoy big, fat dicks but a 12" long 7" girth dick...

On a side note, I saw a porn video featuring a poor freak guy with a tremendous long dick, way pass 16". And you know what? He was unable to get a stiff erection (too much length to be filled with blood), just a semi-flaccid status, and he could only stick the tip of her penis inside the woman's vagina, holding the rest of his freakish cock with his hands so it wouldn't bend over. Big, fat cocks are nice but everything has its limits for proper performance.

From Dennis
I'm a fairly well endowed man, (8 and 1/4 of an inch). Now the pleasure it gives me is enormous while I don't think it does much good for girls other than visual stimulation, if any. I rarely go all the way in except for anal. But I will say it provides me with a little confidence in first pulling it out cause I usually get a comment like your big or wow or something, but not always by the way ladies pretend it's big even if it isn't. 

It's a huge confidence booster to hear someone say you're so big. I mean I knew I was well endowed in high school because it used to get comments in the locker room but I was embarrassed and thought I was a freak, so it all in perspective

From Littlejohn
Speaking as someone who is seriously under-endowed (my cock is a meager 3.25 inches when fully erect), it is my experience that cock size can actually be a very big issue in the bedroom (or perhaps that should be a very small issue). The majority of women I have dated have reacted very negatively when they have seen my cock for the first time. These reactions have ranged from giggling to breaking off the relationship right then and there. 

Fortunately for me, I have now found someone who can see beyond such things, but it has taken a long time. Since then, I have learnt that there are ways of getting around having a tiny cock (oral sex, carefully chosen positions, a strap-on, etc), but it is still a serious knock to the ego to know that 9 times out of 10 your partner isn't going to reach orgasm from your cock alone. Just thought I would share that with you.

From CaipirinhaMan
I agree with R.J. [see R.J.'s entry below] Women's vaginas differ in length and diameter the same as penises do. This is a very important fact that is surprisingly overlooked. Women's preferences also vary from woman to woman, so I'd say that this issue is one of a case by case study. But basically, there are two basic opposite situations: big penis + small vagina and short penis + big vagina.

A man with a big cock and a woman with a very small/tight pussy can be a fairly good or an extremely bad combo—If a woman with a small/tight pussy loves the feeling of being filled and stretched, then she'll go for well-endowed men and have great sex. But it can also happen that just an average cock hurts her and she'll prefer men with smaller/thinner dicks. The average/well-endowed man could get hurt as well when making love to this kind of woman.

A man with a short/thin dick and a woman with a big vagina is also a bad combo. It's quite unlikely that the woman will get hurt but it will be more difficult for her (and him) to get the needed stimulation.

From R.J.
To all the men out there, have you ever had a woman with a small pussy? Of course you have (and you've really enjoyed it too, haven't you). And have you ever heard these women say "bigger is better"? I haven't. The only women I have ever heard say "bigger is better" or "size matters" are the ones with big vaginas. Therefore, my opinion of the answers in this forum are that they are completely irrelevant, since none of the women who have responded have given any indication of their vaginal size (if I have missed any I stand corrected). 

So I have a question for the women out there: Do any of you who have small vaginas enjoy an average sized man and find a man with a "big dick" unpleasant? Please let us know. Men need to hear from you to balance out all the "big dick" rhetoric floating around. And do any of you women who have large vaginas enjoy an average sized man, or just the well endowed man? Please be honest, men need to know if this "big dick" stuff is a reality or just a preference of women with large equipment.

From Susan from Canada
Great topic! I absolutely love a guy licking and sucking my labia and clit and licking and fingering my anus to get me going. I can become so turned on by foreplay I can't decide where I want the man to fuck me first. The length of a man's cock has never been of interest to me, but rather his penis 'girth' size is another story - the thicker the better.

I am 5' 2", 125 lbs., and petite in build. I have been told on more than one occasion that my cunt is quite tight, which men seem to like. When sexually aroused I also have no trouble producing a lot of lubrication. I have to be really honest here and tell you that ultimately, I want my legs to be pushed wide open by a man, then to be filled up to my maximum by him. There is no bigger turn on for me than being totally full of massive maleness. One day I hope to meet him wherever he is. I am just about having an organism thinking about that thick cock as I write. 

In answer to your question - yes, I want foreplay and a big one. A small cock just would never do it for me I'm afraid. I wish there was some way to find out how big a guy was before getting to the point where you are already in the sack. Perhaps I need to get the nerve to discreetly try and 'cop a little feel' when still at the kissing stage.

From Anonymous
I think both are important. My current lover is only about 5in.- a little small for me, but when there is foreplay before sex I can come. I love foreplay and lots of it. I can come just from nipple play (mine are pierced). If we didn't have foreplay I would get no enjoyment from sex at all.

From Anonymous
I guess at 7 inches I'm bigger than some guys but not as big as a porn star. My wife is a small woman in every way, and she is small and tight "down there" too. I don't think size vs. foreplay has to be an either-or issue. In my experience, my competence at foreplay gets her to where she both wants and can accommodate my size. And she seems to care much more about my width (2 inches across, or about 6-1/2 inches circumference) than my length, since it's the width that makes for tighter friction and thus more enjoyment for us both.

So posing this as an either/or question seems odd to me. The preference isn't for foreplay or size, but for foreplay and size!

From Anonymous Male
Now that I'm older, I am embarrassingly lacking in the endowment department. When I met my current girlfriend, I mentioned this to her early in our relationship. She has accepted me as I am. I make up for it through foreplay. She pleases me by wearing the sexy clothing and heels she knows excites me. Then through the use of some consensual light bondage, role-playing and my slow and soft teasing touch, my girlfriend achieves climax every time. I enjoy pleasing her.

From Anonymous
Foreplay! Foreplay! Foreplay! Several posters are accurate when they say that a when a woman says this it usually means she is small. I also agree with the poster who said that Kegel exercises will make the difference in your enjoyment of sexual intercourse no matter the size.

 That said, thicker means more to me than length. Long dicks usually hurt me and before marriage I didn't do long ones twice. But I have to be honest here and say I enjoy a dick best after oral sex. It's too bad men don't realize that their tongue and lips will get them all the devotion in the world. I can be fucked silly after a good tongue bath that brings me to multiple orgasms.

I'm thankful for this site and the honesty of so many women who are finally letting men know the real deal. Sorry guys, the penis just isn't the whole story. Although it's definitely the lead character that depends very much on it's co-star. Without the co-star there's no story. And if there's no story, it's just plain boring.

From Anonymous
Just when you thought this topic had been exhausted...Anyway, arguing about this is like trying to convert someone from Christian to Hindu, from Republican to Democrat, or from PC to Mac. It ain't gonna happen, and each side is SURE that the other is wrong.

The fact is, people have different sexual preferences. Some choose big cocks because they try one and like the feeling (physical). Others say that they are turned on by the idea, regardless of whether they ever even get a chance to be in the same room with one (psychological).

Some have the opposite opinion (I'm resisting the temptation to say they they're usually the guys with small cocks), thinking that size doesn't matter. No one is right except for him- or herself. If you like big cocks, go out and find one (or two, or three)! If you don't, then go to China, baby! It's all good if it's good to ya!

From Anonymous
Guess dick size is to women like breast size is to men. Some like them small and firm, others like them like sloppy watermelons.

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